Spells for Love and Romance (part 1)

Witches are often asked to perform magic on behalf of other people, with prosperity magic and love spells being the most frequently requested. While it is possible for a witch to cast a spell for you (I have several love spells and rituals in my listings!), you can also do it on your own. Love magic is particularly dependent upon emotions, for there is no greater feeling than that of love. There is no drug or adrenalin-junkie experience that can compare to the feeling of falling in love with someone you think is wonderful. They don't call it falling in love for no reason. Love frequently takes us completely by surprise, coming along when we least expect it and leading us into a headlong stumble into a relationship. The fall can be amazing, providing that the object of your desires is there to catch you. Unrequited love is a painful experience, yet the love itself is real enough - it just isn't being reciprocated. And then of course there is heartbreak, brought about by betrayal, loss or a lover who simply changed their mind, or their heart has changed its course.

Love is amazing, exhilarating, confusing, infuriating, and frustrating. At times, it can be a lonely experience too. it is nevertheless a road that we must all navigate in our lives, often more than once, so having magic on your side to help smooth out the bumps in the road towards romance can only be a good thing!

The image of witch casting spells to make someone love them is sometimes being misunderstood. You cannot force someone to love you forever. In my experience as a spell caster and a witchcraft practitioner, I have seen many people try to force what is actually bad for them. They have seen many red flags, but they keep insisting that he or she must love me back! It is not that there is no way to bend the will of the universe. I know and have implemented some ways to force love on someone. But it is through hard work. And it can't be forever. Love is a gift that is best to be offered freely and unconditionally.

The feeling of falling in love is so intense and joyful that is should come as no surprise that people want to experience it more than once. If a relationship becomes stale or entrapping, it makes sense that they might want to break free so that they can have another chance at that wonderful free-fall into romantic bliss. In any long-term relationship, both parties come to a stage where they either agree to tolerate one another's weaknesses, or they go their separate ways. The most damaging relationships are the ones where there is no tolerance, but no possibility of escape either, meaning that the couple are stuck in a cycle of mutual loathing and resentment. This toxic situation is extremely damaging to both parties and to any children they might have. While not everyone is lucky enough to spend their lives billing and cooing at their ideal partner like a pair of doves, there are ways to keep the romance alive for the long term. It all begins, however, with the love for yourself.

Self-Love is the Key

We live in the world where comparison is rife in society. Social media means that we are constantly bombarded with images of other people, their lifestyles, their clothes, even the foods they eat and the places they go. All of these can have negative impact on your self-esteem if you let it. Remember that social media is a highlight reel and the people you follow will have dark days and low moods, just as you do. After all, nobody's life is perfect.

The impact of all this comparison, however, is that people often find it challenging to love themselves or to think of themselves as worthy human beings. Instead they fall into the trap of feelings as if they are not good enough, rich enough, pretty enough, or anything for the modern world. But for someone else to love you, you have to love yourself first. Why is this? Well, it is because bolstering someone else's self-esteem can be exhausting and it is quite a turn-off. People are reluctant to attach themselves to someone who is extremely needy, clingy and dependent on them for feelings of worthiness. They are more likely to be charmed by someone who is in a good place mentally and who is okay with being alone from time to time. So your best chance at a love match is to learn to love yourself first and foremost and to know that you are a worthy human being.

Romancing Your Life

Dating yourself is one of the most positive things that you can do, not only when you are single but when you are in a relationship too. It simply isn't healthy to not go out alone from time to time. You need to experience and maintain your independence, even if you are deeply in love. Romancing your life is the art of turning everyday events into moments of magic. It is about going to see a movie on your own, stopping for coffee at a nice cafe on the way back.

Saving things for best is the anti-thesis of romancing your life and dating yourself. Don't keep the best candles just when people come over! I am not suggesting that you swan down the supermarket aisle in a ball gown and tiara, but I am saying that life is too short to keep loveliness at bay, which is what we do when we save things for best. So make sure that you do light the posh scented candle, wear the expensive perfume, drink the best coffee, and enjoy it! Life is meant to be lived one day at a time, with the things we have at our disposal in the moment. You never know what is around the corner, so make sure that you are enjoying the things you own now and in the moment. Not only will this make you happier in the short term, that daily joy will compound over time, leading to a sense of deep contentment in your life - which can be very attractive. Make time to date and romance yourself and your own life, without a partner, and then when love shows up, not only will you already be living a lovely life, but you will probably be wearing one of your best outfits too!

Tips for Romancing and Dating Yourself

• Buy yourself fresh flowers

• Treat yourself to a box of chocolates

• Write a love letter to yourself, expressing admiration for all your charms and gifts

• Take yourself to see a film or theatre alone

• Visit a nice cafe or restaurant alone and order something delicious

• Buy a pastry from a patisserie, have it boxed up and take it home to eat as you choose

• Set the table and make a delicious breakfast or brunch to start the day

• Go on holiday alone and explore new places

• Try something new

• Book a lesson in something you have always wanted to learn such as horse riding or piano playing

• Have a spa day, either at home or at your favorite spa

• Find a love poem which sums up your personality and quote it like a mantra

• Wear diamonds and pearls, or your best adornments

• Wear your finest fragrance just because you can

• Burn scented candles or essential oils daily, to create a romantic atmosphere

To be continued to part 2...